Sometimes we run ourselves ragged trying to fit in or trying to meet new people or trying to do the "right" things to advance. It can easily get to the point where you don't really know what you want from life. If you somehow slow down or reflect on what you want you can be shocked at how many years you have been seemingly following someone else's plan. But then, when you start listening to yourself and following your own path, it may not seem any better and then you really question your place. And then one day, when you're least expecting it, your're working towards a goal and in the middle you realize you are doing what you are meant to do. When those times come, relish in it and use it to power your efforts the next time it seems as if no one notices you.
We've all read lots of books and articles on giving feedback, but what is the best way to receive feedback? My default response used to be to explain my position, show how I do what the person is asking, or show how I wanted to but someone else prevented me. If I am caught off guard or stressed, these are still my gut instincts. However, I have learned two much more constructive ways to respond to feedback that I strive to use more often. The first started as I became more self-aware and felt comfortable and safe acknowledging and working on my weaknesses. If someone points something I am aware of and I feel safe (i.e., it is pointed out in a private forum versus a public forum) the best thing I can do is say "I know, do you have any suggestions or advice that will help me?" If someone has the courage to step out of their comfort zone to point out a way I can improve, it is a safe bet they've thought about it beforehand. The second way to handle...
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