What did I learn today? Today was you are not the boss of me day on Dr. Phil and he theorized that people are overly controlling are usually doing so when internally they are spinning out of control. It was like a light going on and yes I am willing to admit when I am most controlling on the outside, I am most unsettled on the inside. So not a huge revelation, but sometimes just identifying the problem can help a lot.
We've all read lots of books and articles on giving feedback, but what is the best way to receive feedback? My default response used to be to explain my position, show how I do what the person is asking, or show how I wanted to but someone else prevented me. If I am caught off guard or stressed, these are still my gut instincts. However, I have learned two much more constructive ways to respond to feedback that I strive to use more often. The first started as I became more self-aware and felt comfortable and safe acknowledging and working on my weaknesses. If someone points something I am aware of and I feel safe (i.e., it is pointed out in a private forum versus a public forum) the best thing I can do is say "I know, do you have any suggestions or advice that will help me?" If someone has the courage to step out of their comfort zone to point out a way I can improve, it is a safe bet they've thought about it beforehand. The second way to handle...
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